All you Need is Love. Love is a Many Splendored Thing. Love Makes the World go ‘Round. It’s natural, from the heart and can take over our body and mind…
So what if we told you there was science to falling in love?
Love it or loathe it, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. At Fierce Grace Brixton, we’re putting partner love right on the map with a special Valentine’s Workshop. Whether you’re single and lovin’ it, a partnered-up pair of love birds, fancy coming with your Mum – cos you love her too, or are bringing a yogi friend you know will enjoy it. All pairs are welcome!
NOW FOR THE SCIENCE
There are three phases to falling in love. Different hormones shoot through the body at each significant stage. Stimualtion in the brain during the love process even share some similarities with mental illness. Other factors in attractiveness could be smell, appearance or a subconscious lust for a particular gene pool!
Signs of love manifest themselves externally in flushed cheeks, clammy hands and a racing heartbeat. When it comes to showing our love internally, we’re at the mercy of biochemistry and these three stages of falling in love:
STAGE 1: LUST
Hello sex hormones: testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not only confined to men. It has also been shown to play a big part in the sex drive of a woman.
It has also been suggested that it takes only 4 minutes to fall in love. The things we find attractive in a partner can be the result of a “love map” – things instilled in us from childhood about what we do or do not want in a partner. Furthermore, it has also been suggested we all belong to certain “chemical families”; and instinctively choose partners who balance and complement our own bodily hormone levels. Or maybe they just have a cute smile?
STAGE 2: ATTRACTION
Love struck phase comes into play here. When we’re in love we can think of nothing else. We might feel distraction, insomnia or loss of appetite.
In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called ‘monoamines’ play an important role: Dopamine – Also activated by cocaine and nicotine.
Norepinephrine – Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing.
Serotonin – One of love’s most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane!
STAGE 3: ATTACHMENT
As mind-altering and wonderful the attraction phase is, people can’t stay in it forever as they’ve never get any work…or yoga done. Attachment follows on from attraction if they relationship is going somewhere. The major players in the hormone department are: Oxytocin, which helps promote a bond between a couple, and Vasopressin, an important chemical in the long-term commitment stage.
That’s the science taken care of. Now to join us in a Valentine’s Workshop with your loved one. Senior teacher at Fierce Grace Brixton, Nina Rashid will be leading this class full of partner stretch and deep breathing. Afterwards, you’ll be treated to strawberries and fizz in our members lounge.
Price: £30 per couple.
When: Sunday 17th of February 17:30 – 18:45